Friend: Hi again, so I have started to practice and would like to work through a process with you. The perception is my mom telling me that she doesn’t like a dress because it is showing a bit of my chest. The emotion that I pinpointed is feeling angry that I am being shamed for having breasts. How do I get to the belief and the desire?
Dylan: Alright, this is beautiful stuff happening here. So, the perception is the mom character on the screen speaking words which reflect that she doesn’t like a dress because it is showing a bit of the body’s chest. The next step is to inquire into what egoic thoughts are underneath the anger that are arising within awareness.
Friend: The thought underneath the anger is, “She should not be making me feel ashamed of my breasts, especially because she birthed me.”
Dylan: Wonderful. Now that you have seen the egoic thought(s) you are going to look at the underlying beliefs, which can include expectations or preferences. You can inquire into what some beliefs may be.
Friend: Beliefs, I find this part the hardest! I believe her opinion can affect me; I believe my mom shouldn’t say things to make me feel angry or upset; I believe my mom shouldn’t make me feel uncomfortable with my body; I believe I am separate from my mom and can be hurt by the words that are said.
Dylan: Now that you have seen the false beliefs, per the diagram, the desire in all upsets will be separation. What I mean by this is the mind is desiring to overlook the one “goal” of peace of mind, the Peace of God, your Self in Christ to misidentify with the ego and its unloving thoughts and self of sin and unhappiness.
Here, you can see how the ego is suggesting thoughts to you (the mind) in the form of that something which happened shouldn’t have happened, in an attempt to be right about something of the world—to try and preserve its seeming existence.
This upset is graciously allowing you to see that the mind has a split desire for something other than peace of mind: that something should be different than how it is for me to be at peace. The ego is essentially saying, “NO, your peace doesn’t come from God, it comes from the approval of your mother.”
You can see that if you knew your worth came from your Heavenly Parent, being God, you would not even be worried about the approval of the world. It is just an internal shift in who you think you are: a child of the world or a child of God. Through prayer and communion with the Holy Spirit, the Holy Spirit’s Discernment will begin to reveal to you the Self you are in Christ, so that you can eventually fully surrender the ego and its self of sin to fully accept the Self you are in Him.
Yet, this prayerful inquiry is essential because you have to first look at your value in the darkness to then say, “Ahh, I no longer value this.” Then you place value correctly in God and His Fruits.
This whole inquiry is just to bring the mind to a point where it can say I just want to be wrong about this value in the voice of the devil, who speaks against God and the Fruits in Him. I want to be wrong about how I am seeing things, so I can choose again this very instant. Praise God.
1) At first, the problem looked like:
I am upset because my mom said she doesn’t like a dress.
2) Having brought the upset back to the mind, it can now be seen that:
I seem to be experiencing upsetting emotions because I am valuing upsetting thoughts that suggest, “She should not be making me feel ashamed of my breasts”; which is an effect of valuing the voice of hate and its false belief of separation in mind: that
1) I am a separate self that is separate from the world with separate events happening to me, and
2) I can then be a victim and shamed by someone other than myself; which is stemming from the root, split desire for something other than the Peace of God. The split desire that my mom’s behaviour needs to change, instead of the mind’s split desire or mental value in the ego, so that I can be happy, peaceful, and complete right now.
The split desire for something other than Peace, by divine logic, must result in lack of peace. What is not peace is lack of peace. This is the same as saying that there is a split desire (of the ego) for something on the movie screen should be different and should be how the ego wants it to be, and I want to be right about it!!
That I WANT MY MOTHER’S APPROVAL rather than knowing the approval I already have in Him.
Yet, this upset appeared to be projected onto mom or the world because I seemingly valued the ego’s unloving thoughts and beliefs and was afraid of taking full responsibility for my state of mind.
Seeing the trick of the mind you can ask: Do I now want to be right about this split desire to get approval from my mom, or do I now want to be wrong about that and recognise that my mom, everyone else, and everything else is innocent because I was only valuing and reacting to false thoughts of fear? Do I desire fully to know my worth in God more than these split desires of worldly approval?
This is where the love and peace are remembered because the original innocence and love is singularly desired and experienced.
Knowing nothing could be different than it is, all problems were just a misperception or a perceptual problem of valuing the ego’s purpose. Giving it more validity than the Reality of God and the Self I am in Him. Thinking that my mother is a separate self, rather than how we all share one Self in Christ, therefore, we are all worthy of forgiveness rather than judgement.
All fear is a lack of love and is only corrected by Perfect Love, by Clarity, by God.
Friend: So beautiful, thank you SO much for walking through this with me!! I was thinking about a way to inquire that resonates with me and this is it!!
Added closing note not originally added:
The ego always suggests, “If only something was different in the world, with that person or with that situation then I could be peaceful.” The Holy Spirit is always calling you back to Itself saying, “Here I Am, My Love, Peace never left you. Choose again and accept the Self you are in Christ, Whose Peace is sourced by God.” It softly reminds you, “Surrender this self you think you are and accept the Self you are in God. Remain here in His unchanging Peace that is with you throughout every worldly moment! Let the devil’s thoughts of lack of love arise and disappear, they are not who you truly are. Rest here in His Peace, Love and Tranquillity. Your state of mind is always up to you, as you have always had the power to choose Me. You just needed to “Let thine eye be single,” let your desire, your focus, your attention be singular for His Peace right now.”
One Silent Mind 