Polyamory

Friend: Do you have any experience with polyamory? It’s becoming a part of my life and I never thought it would. My wife of 10 years has asked that we open our relationship and I’m scared to death. I know I shouldn’t be, and I’m way less scared than I was a few weeks ago when it was brought up. I’ve just been having a hard time with it and I don’t really know who to talk to. I feel like it’s a good thing in a way, though, because I’m being shown parts of my ego and negative feelings I didn’t know I was hiding.

Dylan: Dearest Friend,

I appreciate you sharing this with me! All of Heaven is always so, so, so joyful when one is willing to share what is on one’s heart for release to God.

Yes, indeed, you are perfectly where you need to be in this moment and it’s great you are aware of the feelings that are being brought up inside. While the voice that speaks against God, in mind, will suggest otherwise, this is such a great leap forward. As the voice of the enemy is exposed, one is on the very cusp of experiencing the deep, deep Love underneath any seeming pain.

Relationships, from a partner or briefly meeting someone on the street, are an extremely important tool in regards to a surrender of self and opening to the Peace and Love of God. With every encounter, you are always only meeting yourself, a mirror of your own state of mind. That is why every encounter is such a blessing to the Spirit. The world is only an effect or mirror of your state of mind. Therefore, when the mind is seemingly misaligned with the voice of the enemy and its self of sin, you perceive the world accordingly. This often takes the experience of seeing a fearful, anxious, attacking, judgemental and insane world.

You do not see that the insanity is only in the mind, being projected out onto the world. That is why prayer, communion with the Holy Spirit and relationship with God are so helpful in retraining the mind to re-perceive with the Holy Spirit, Who Speaks for your Peace in God.

While, initially, your attention is on the specifics of the world and relationships, with a little willingness to open to a new purpose you begin to open to mind-watching. There are false beliefs in mind that have been buried in the subconscious, and relationships are great at bringing what has been repressed up to the Light of the Holy Spirit. You can begin to observe the devil in mind that comes in and is always jumping to conclusions, “Because she wants this this means I’m not good enough for her, she doesn’t love me,” etc.

Emotions are always an effect of thought. When these thoughts arise into awareness, you experience the false effects of valuing the voice that speaks against God: fear, anxiety, worry and anger. Yet, with the Holy Spirit’s Wisdom and Discernment, you can just observe these emotions and recognise that they are not yours, not your Real Inspired Thoughts of God.

As you said, this is a great time to look at the parts of the ego that you may still value and be misidentified with. All of the false beliefs, assumptions and conclusions around abandonment, not being loved and betrayal are all characteristics of the voice of the enemy and its false self of sin. With the Helpful Guidance of the Holy Spirit, experiences as well as insight will dawn on the mind that will allow it to loosen its grip, preceding a surrender of self and acceptance of the Self in Christ.

As you get very clear on the purpose of the voice that speaks against God, the mind can then discern between what is of the enemy and what is of God. The core false belief of the enemy in mind is the false belief in separation. This is the underlying belief that you have separated from God, and are now your own god or unit that must find your own love, approval and provision as a little, separate self in a world of time and space. The good news is that is not so. Only the devil left God, claiming to be its own god and feels the effects of that: abandonment, lack, etc. These characteristics of not yours, who is Sourced by God Who is always with you.

When the mind is trying to be what it is not, therefore, mis-perceiving, fear can be the only result. The devil counsels, “You must now gain the approval of others because they will judge you if you do not live up to the assigned roles.” The whole trick of the devil is projection. It projects its own judgement onto a brother in Christ and claims that they are judging you. You can clearly see the whole trick for what it is, a trick to keep you distracted from God and His Fruits.

With great joy, which is often experienced by the devil as fear, we are all going for a renewal of mind in Christ. The mind is being asked to question how it knows what it knows. How does one know a cup is a cup but through past learning. How does one know what a relationship is meant to look like but through past learning and conditioning, which is all based on the devil’s purpose and self of sin. The devil is the denial of God, of the Present Moment, of true, total Relationship with Him. This is where the Guidance of the Holy Spirit is very important. The mind that was in Christ is also in you, and will help reinterpret what the mind seems to be perceiving as this Guidance is outside of past learning. It is alive and with you this moment.

Going a step further, I’ll use an analogy of a movie. While watching a movie, you can’t control the movie you are watching. What you can direct, though, is your state of mind, how you perceive the movie. This is getting clear on form verses content: what you can control verses what is out of your control, and the wisdom to tell the difference. If the events of the world are out of your control and all past, then it would be common sense for you to put all focus on how you view the world.

Present trust, along with the Holy Spirit, will settle every problem now.

As the mind starts to unwind from valuing the voice of the enemy in mind and its backwards thoughts, you place your value correctly in God. As what is false is judged correctly, as false, what is True must shine As It Is in your experience. As you see the complete lack of value in the voice of the devil, you surrender this “self” and accept the Self you are in Christ, where God is remembered. As you remember the Oneness of Self or Wholeness of God, relationship is experienced in its truest sense, that you are always in relationship with God.

This relationship with God is what is truly sought after in relationships of the world. This relationship with God is what fills “every hole” that the devil uses the things of the world to fill. Therefore, turn your attention to God and His Light, that will light up your mind in Him.

In the Wholeness of God, Who is Love, what is there to fear? When you seek Him, Who is Perfect Love, who is there in the world to gain approval from? Who is there in the world to be in relationship with from a place of filling a hole only He can fill? In Him, when He lights you up from within, you will know that you are always in relationship with everyone and everything, at all moments because He is in Relationship with them through you. There is no separation.

The experience of oneness, unity or wholeness is the experience of a deep, unconditional Love for everyone and everything, knowing there is no separation in Him. He is with you, always. That is what Love is, the experience of unity or oneness beyond the worldly appearances of separation. This is the natural experience of the Self in Christ. Everything else is just all part of the plan beyond the form to help the mind awaken to the Self in Christ that was never hidden.

I’m always here if you need to express anything, as you are never alone in anything you experience. It is all working out for good. You’re right where you need to be to continue focusing on Him and extending His Love in Heart.

Love you exactly as you are ❤

Friend: I think this is exactly what I needed to hear… thank you Dylan!