Beloved Friend: When I see myself assigning consequences to my children for certain behaviour, I feel so contracted when I buy into these roles. Could you please help me see this differently?
Loving Reminder: Love is unconditional
Yes, thank you for raising this up to look at it differently!
I will use the analogy of going to watch a movie in the movie theatre. When you sit down and watch the movie, you are the observer of the movie in the audience, and then there are all of the characters acting out a script on the screen. Yet, the movie has already been acted out, filmed, put onto film and is now just being projected out onto a blank, white movie screen. Many often go to movies to get lost in the film, taking on the roles of the characters on the screen. You yell at them not to go down that dark alley, forgetting it is just a movie! One tends to forget that they have no control over the events or outcomes of what is happening on the screen.
Similarly so, your daily experience of life is all involuntary. What is done, behaviourally, comes from what is thought and believed in mind. Therefore, there is no real autonomy in behaviour, as it is an effect of the mind and the interpretations it gives it.
Since behaviour is all involuntary, you never have control over the world or the behaviour of others. This may be scary to the voice of the devil in mind. However, through the Eye of the Holy Spirit, there is no mentally constructed image of how a seeming situation should be to be at peace. Everything is playing out according to His Plan of salvation, which means that everything that happens in your daily experience can be used to release false thoughts and beliefs, influenced by the devil, to experience the Peace of God. Your sole responsibility in life is to begin taking 100% responsibility for your state of mind, for how you are feeling and for what you seem to be perceiving. Not to self-loathe from guilt but as a recognition that you can choose differently.
In watching a movie, your state of mind is always under your direction rather than from what is happening on the screen. If any reactions arise from whatever may be presented in the world, it is for you to question these reactions and open to seeing that all emotions and reactions are an effect of valuing the voice of the devil, in mind, over the Voice of the Holy Spirit. When the mind values the voice of the devil, the devils purpose is always to distract you away from God. It does this through its split desires. When you value something other than God and His Peace, the only logical result is lack of peace.
With the Holy Spirit, you are given the opportunity to be honest with yourself and ask: what unloving thoughts and beliefs are arising in mind that are seemingly hindering me from seeing the perfection and innocence of my children, along with myself? What are the thoughts going on in my mind that is obscuring my love for the children in that moment? It is these thoughts which give rise to frantic emotions and then is projected by the mind onto the world, such as the children.
The Holy Spirit will reveal to you what the meaning of projection is. It Loving Reminders will allow you to see that these reactions are not caused by anything of the world, even the children, but by the mind’s misidentification and value of the voice of the devil in mind, which provides the mind false images about the way things should be before you can offer love. Just as the Holy Spirit accepts everything as it is and then proceeds forth Love or a call for Love, the voice of the devil resists everything to keep you in drama and distracted from God, misusing imagination to offer imagined images of how it wants things.
All upset or lack of peace can be traced back to the desire to value the devil’s purpose of that something should be different than it is in the world for me to be peaceful, happy or complete. This is the split desire which places the Happiness and Peace that is already given by God into a future goal, where it is never found.
It is this value that needs to be questioned with the Holy Spirit and seen as false. It only seemed you were upset by your children or the world because you were afraid to look upon these false thoughts and the power of the mind. Claiming the power of the mind would mean accepting responsibility that it is only you who does everything to yourself, yet used the world as a seeming scapegoat so that you could seem to play out a belief in being an innocent victim. This is all the influence of the voice of the great deceiver, who speaks against God and your Peace in Him.
One transcends anger and variant upsetting emotions not by projecting them onto the world but through true forgiveness, meaning to bring the projections back to the mind, where the lack of value in the voice of the devil can be experienced. Through prayer and communion with the Holy Spirit, It will guide you in overlooking any other goal that is not of God and the consistent Peace you experience in Him. This Experience is Glorious, indeed!
By taking full responsibility, you no longer claim to play the victim role. Through the realisation that you have never been a victim, you open to joyfully surrendering the self of unhappiness and spiritual death to the Holy Spirit, to completely accept the Self in Christ.
In time, this looks like a process until it is just recognised from the “end point” as one moment of complete surrender and Grace. Can what God has already given in Him take time? Can Grace actually be a span of time? Complete healing is non-linear, as it takes no time to be who you are in Christ.
You always have the ability to choose, until peace is the only experience, how you see what is happening in the world. In this, only innocence and love is experienced as everyone is seen as one with you in Christ. This is indeed Love Itself, for Love is seeing the eternal oneness or wholeness beyond temporary or dualistic appearances of the world.
Love is unconditional, as Love sees and extends only Love. Everything else arises for you to see what you are valuing or desiring more than God. Day-to-day experiences are here to wake you up to the Self in Christ that was never hidden.
You are right where you need to be to continue extending the Love and Peace He Wills to share through you, to reach everyone else asking to be touched by Him. Now is the opportunity to choose again and extend the innocence and love to everyone that shares the same Reality in Him as you.
Thank you so much for your presence. You are so loved and seen by Him!
One Silent Mind 