As relationships end, there can be many unconscious beliefs and unquestioned thoughts that arise within awareness. The effects of these include feelings of upset, loss, hurt, anger or abandonment. Often going unseen, the fear of abandonment is the most common belief that arises into awareness at “the end” of relationships.
As these deep feelings of hurt are brought up for one to see with the Holy Spirit, one is given the opportunity to re-feel them without judgement or repression. These are emotions that wanted to be seen once before, yet were suppressed because one didn’t want to look at them, thus becoming unconscious.
Every event, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity for healing. You are given the opportunity to look at all of the unquestioned thoughts and assumptions that speak against God, to see their falsity and, ultimately, their impossibility.
As the mind seems to value the great deceiver and think with it, one experiences its upsetting thoughts, upsetting emotions and distorted perceptions. However, as with everything, they can be used by the Holy Spirit for healing and to bring the one back to the Peace of God. As one brings false beliefs to the Light of the Holy Spirit, only the light will remain. Just as when you turn a light on, the light and darkness in the room cannot co-exist.
As one exposes these thoughts through prayer, realisations can start to spark in the mind. In my own experience, when a relationship ended, I was aware that the choice to feel angry and sad was a choice not to see beliefs such as, “I can be abandoned,” as a present decision in the mind. By believing this one unquestioned belief, “I can be abandoned,” the effectual upsetting emotions and perceptions of the world seem to arise.
For example, when one forgets about one’s Self in Christ, the Love of God and the Fruits of the Spirit are seemingly overlooked where the voice of the adversary is valued instead. The voice of the adversary is the voice of one who abandoned God, and now has no source. It claims to be its own source, which is where pride and the fruits of the enemy arise from. Just like Scar, in the movie The Lion King, who killed Mufasa and tempts Simba into believing he did, the great deceiver now tempts your mind into believing and taking on the qualities of itself.
From valuing the voice of the great deceiver, the false effects of misidentifying with this belief of abandonment can be seen as: firstly, experiencing unloving thoughts which speak against God, such as, “I am unloved; I am unlikable; something is wrong with me; I am trash”; secondly, feelings of upset are experienced as sadness, anger or loss; the last effect may play out as projecting anger and guilt onto someone and closing off because of the emotions.
What you do comes from what you think and believe. Feeling sad and angry is the enemy’s attempt to prove that one can be a victim of the world, and that its false projections are justified by it. It is an attempt to see the cause as something in the world or perception, forgetting that it is only myself who is doing everything to myself; that the cause is on the level of mind, the level of valuing the great deceiver.
This is great news! This means that if I am willing to look at everything again with the Light of the Holy Spirit, I can change my experience of the world right here and right now. I do not need to play the victim card, which just delays the Peace, Happiness and Love of God that is available through surrender and Grace. The enemy does not want you to be happy. The enemy does not want you to be at peace, therefore, it has to throw up delay tactics to keep your focus off of God. The moment you choose God wholeheartedly is when its seeming reign ends. It delays this experience through counselling, “Only when they change, only when something in the world is different in the future, only when you attain these worldly goals can you then be peaceful and happy.”
Through prayer and the Holy Spirit, the loved one who was blamed and the target of projection can now be seen as always being innocent! Not with blame but with gratitude, for letting you see this misidentification with the enemy in your own mind that needed to be raised to doubt.
In that moment it was not them that didn’t love me, it was I who misidentified with the voice of the adversary, who speaks against God, and did not love God or my brothers and sisters. It was not them that abandoned me, but I who abandoned my Self in Christ through valuing with the voice of the adversary more than God. Yet, not wanting to take responsibility for my state of mind, for my desire to value the great deceiver, I unknowingly blamed others and made them a target of what I was doing. “Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”” Luke 23:34
When you start to question what you are experiencing in the world and investigate the underlying thoughts and beliefs, there is a lot of glee that starts to bubble from within. You realise that you always have the ability to change what you are experiencing from moment-to-moment-to-moment.
You can be seemingly hurt only by misidentifying with the voice of the adversary and its unloving thoughts. When you question these thoughts and the misidentification with them, the made-up movie that is happening in the imagination dissolves. If you do not abandon your Self in Christ, how can you experience abandonment? You know God is always with you, along with your brothers and sisters. If you are rooted in the Love of God how can you experience heartbreak? You know God loves you and you love God, along with everyone.
It was only ever false beliefs that made you believe that you had to abandon your Self in Christ, to put on a mask to gain approval by your partner or the world. It was only ever false beliefs that made you forget about God’s Love, and now had to get it from everyone and everything else in the world.
When you are rooted in God and have the Stability of Christ as your Foundation, the qualities of the great deceiver can now be seen as ridiculous and impossible. By raising the voice of the adversary to doubt you are able to continue to love, seeing that there actually can be no loss but an inclusion of everyone else into the Love of God.
All relationships are tremendously helpful for healing. Even though the bodies may not be together, being open and connected to the Self in Christ allows you to recognise that everyone is still joined in God’s Love, regardless of distance.
Gratitude be with everything that occurs in perception. What the enemy made to harm can be used by God for healing. Awakening is going through the seeming darkness to the Light of God, to see Light was all there ever was. We always go together, beyond words, to a higher communication, beyond all that was previously imagined. You are coming to truly see that you are always joined no matter where you are, as the true Self in Spirit has no distance, being Whole.
Remember to laugh, Loved One. I love you!
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One Silent Mind 